Recently, I was doing some research on relationships in general and I stumbled across a website called Go Ask Alice! and found this list:

In a healthy relationship, you:

Treat each other with respect
Feel secure and comfortable
Are not violent with each other
Can resolve conflicts satisfactorily
Enjoy the time you spend together
Support one another
Take interest in one another's lives: health, family, work, etc.
Have privacy in the relationship
Can trust each other
Are each sexual by choice
Communicate clearly and openly
Have letters, phone calls, and e-mail that are your own
Make healthy decisions about alcohol or other drugs
Encourage other friendships
Are honest about your past and present sexual activity if the relationship is intimate
Know that most people in your life are happy about the relationship
Have more good times in the relationship than bad

I think this is an excellent list for a healthy relationship! These are all the things I would like to experience in a relationship. I kept on reading Go Ask Alice! and there was another list:

In an unhealthy relationship, one or both of you:

Try to control or manipulate the other
Make the other feel bad about her/himself
Ridicule or call names
Dictate how the other dresses
Do not make time for each other
Criticize the other's friends
Are afraid of the other's temper
Discourage the other from being close with anyone else
Ignore each other when one is speaking
Are overly possessive or get jealous about ordinary behavior
Criticize or support others in criticizing people with your gender, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion, disability, or other personal attribute
Control the other's money or other resources (e.g., car)
Harm or threaten to harm children, family, pets, or objects of personal value
Push, grab, hit, punch, or throw objects
Use physical force or threats to prevent the other from leaving

I realized that these are the things I call "Red Flags". Whenever I feel a "red flag" going up I start to pay attention and often end further contact with a man when the "red flags" go up.

Recently, I went out with an old friend from high school. We weren't close but our paths crossed every now and then. He was quiet and nice and shy in high school. Things were very nice and relaxed and comfortable. I came back home to Stephenville and we continued calling and texting and even made plans to see each other again. However, I had a stressful week and ended up being sick and had to cancel. We continued talking and during one of our conversations he said something that caught my attention and threw up a "red flag" that I am not quite sure about. As we were talking about clothing (don't ask me how we got on that topic) I made a comment about high heels and he told me I was the tallest girl he had ever dated and that if I wore high heels he would make me take them off.... At the moment it pissed me off a bit and I made the comment back that he wasn't my daddy an I wore what I wanted. After I got off the phone with him though this conversation continued to pop up in my head randomly. We haven't even had a second date and he already told me he would make me do something????? As I look back on other conversations I realize there were other "red flags" too like it seems to be a major thing for him that when a couple is a couple that their money be combined. I am not sure how I feel about this and marriage seems to be very important to him but I may not ever want to actually go through the formality of marriage again but yet he doesn't appear to be open to compromise on either subject......these are "red flags" to me because compromise is a major factor of any relationship. No one can ever get there way all the time in any relationship.

I guess these are just more things I need to think about..........